Do You have the Respect of Your Peers?
Another question might be; what is respect and does it matter? So some say that they are an individual, and stand alone, and especially unique in themselves, and in their life, and so people do not understand them, and they should be owed respect. Well then, if people want to do business with you, or ask you for advice is not of any importance, in what you do?
Whether one likes it or not, we all want to be noticed, we want to be accepted, and we want those around us to listen to us with some sort of interest, and enthusiasm. It does not always mean we want the lime light, but we sure wish that our words meant something to others, for it is part of that ‘acceptance thing’.
So let us look at this idea, of ‘Respect’. And yes it is an idea, a frame work of perspective, and unique facts about someone. Also, realize this, that if you are truly respected, then not only are you listened to, but your ideas, and your point of view are sought after on issues, and ideas that are often the hall mark of your life, and of your intellect, or position.
I put the word position last for a reason, for one can have ‘Respect’ for an office, or a position and never have any respect for the person in that position, so it means far less than the other two. But, it is still a very necessary part of life for two unique rules of their own, which is summed up in just one special rule: ‘You have to give respect in order to ever receive respect!’
There are many who will, and do disagree with the idea that they have to give respect in order to receive it, but then they are the ones who usually demand it without earning the respect that they demand. OK, it all sounds just a bit, round and round and a circular type of argument, so lets just study it for a minute and see what comes form this idea. Like, I am so sorry this is long, but I feel the end it worth it, and I feel saying I am sorry is respecting your feelings.
Respect is a positive feeling of admiration, or deference for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected (example; “I have great respect for her, or his, judgment”). It can also be conduct in accord with a specific ethic of respect. Such as one respects the office of a Judge, by all rising, when the bailiff, announces the Honorable Judge ‘so and so’, in other words they rise to respect his position. A person should respect a police officer for what reason? Because he has a hard and sometimes dangerous job to do, and by being respectful it often helps the situation to be less stressful on all parties concerned and in return a good officer will return that favor. It does by no means, mean you have to repsect the individual in that position if you know them and have not respect for them.
Respect can also be both given and/or received. Depending on an individual’s cultural reference frame, respect can be something that is earned. Respect is often thought of as earned or built over time. Often, continued caring interactions are required to maintain or increase feelings of respect among individuals. Chivalry, by some definitions, contains the outward display of respect. For this is an outward respect of women and their whole gender. The same is said of and delivered to older people, who obviously have learned much in their life, and have experienced things the younger have no knowledge of yet.
The are of business and commerce is another are where respect must be earned, and it comes with time, for no business ever started, had the respect of it peers. Some say that just because you are the biggest business in your area, that you have earned the respect of those you serve, but that is not actually true, for some grow huge simply on the fact that they sell, or offer services at prices that under cut their competitors, and this is not earned respect, but business, or supply and demand, out of shear necessity, and disrespect for the poorer classes. For they do not care about their customers, but only for the bottom line no matter how they get it.
Respect should not be confused with tolerance. The antonym and opposite of respect is disrespect.
So let me now approach this from a final point, and I will offer at least two Proverbs.
I personally now ‘Respect’ you for you are part of my personal group, and you are one, I care about or I would not share such information to improve your life, and those around you. Like I said you must give respect in order to receive it, in order to attain one’s goals you must have help, and to receive help you must be accepted, and what is it you are accepted for? Is it your wit, is it your knowledge, or is it your discernment of all things which bring forth fruit to every endeavor you choose to under take? Or lastly is it that you are just the greatest of friends, and people enjoy your company, another thing which grows over time. For to have friends one must 1st be friendly! Another point of true respect is to respect the poor, for you do not know why they are in thier position, and until you do, respect the fact that they deserve some help, and not a life, for that is their job.
Pro_24:23 These things also belong to the wise. It is not good to have respect of persons in judgment.
Pro_28:21 To have respect of persons is not good: for for a piece of bread that man will transgress.
Now, the real test; in trying causes in a court of judicature, no regard should be had to the persons of men by the judge on the bench, as the rich more than to the poor, or to a relation, a friend, an intimate acquaintance, more than to a stranger; but the justice of the cause ought to be attended to, and sentence given according to it and let it fall as it will. God does not accept persons, nor regard the rich more than the poor; nor should they that stand in his stead, and who in some sense represent him, and often use his word for their own purposes. For Jacob sold his birthright for a piece of bread. And his birthright was what, is meant by discernment of the story? For so many will sell their soul for certain things, and so did Jacob. God does not respect you as a human ,or a person, or as His creation, but your actions, and what is in your thoughts for it tells all.
I have much respect for those within our company, and our now personal business ownership that is coupled together in a grander scheme to help us all prosper, and grow as a family. And we owe much respect to those who have made this possible, through great efforts and loss of time to themselves for such unwavering and unselfish fortitude of respect of a concept of one man. Thank you so much Honorable Henry Banayat, or perhaps Sir Henry Banayat, for as one must also know culture also plays a big role in the art of Respect, and this man has earned ours! So think about this last line for but a minute; If we all work together as a family, as each of us with respect to each other (a positional thing, and one of equality) we could make this company the best and most widely known in all the world, in the very near future, so think about it. sc