Be Proud in 2016
Jodie came home from kindergarten sobbing one day. “Mummy” she said with big teary eyes, “Emily says she doesn’t like me”. “Don’t worry dear”, said her mum “ you have lots of people who do like you, and we all love you.”
Children can be really nasty, cruel, and they “tell it as it is”. This is not only found in children but this is also found in adults, except they are often more subtle. They veil their dislike in sarcasm, in backstabbing, in gossip, by ignoring and exclusion and in many other ways.
Some do tell it “as it is” on the internet, in forums and in chats and with the cover of anonymity they say thing to people that they wouldn’t say to them face to face.
Most of us have probably been on the receiving end of this kind of treatment, and it does hurt.
So how can we deal with it?
The first thing that we need to do is to recognise that in fact it happens to all. We all have people who like us, and those who don’t. We can’t please all the people all of the time. Even Jesus had those who liked Him and those who didn’t like Him; they put Him to death on a cross.
The second thing we should do is to ask ourselves if there is any truth in what is being said about us. If there is, then we may need to apologise and try to restore the relationship. I was always taught to keep short accounts with people. Never let hurts grow and to fester. Deal with them.
If there is no truth in what is said, then, often those who don’t like us may just be suffering from a case of a “bad conscience having the fidgets”. Treat them with love and kindness and don’t buy into their misery.
I think it was Dr Elisabeth Kubler-Ross who once said, “What others think of you is none of your business”. It is so true. If they don’t like you, that is their problem, don’t make it yours. If you do this and try to please them, you end up doing the things they want you to do, say or think and in the process you deny who you really are. You are allowing them to control you.
Someone once said (and I don’t know who it was) “You were born an original, don’t die as a copy”. Be yourself and be proud of who YOU are.