Self esteem

Self-esteem is vital. Feeling good about who you’re and having confidence in yourself are things everyone should do, but many don’t. The matter often lies therein. They struggle to try to do something when they’re younger and fail at it. If it happens quite once, they start to lose confidence in their abilities and too repeatedly, never gain it back.

Often, self-esteem keeps us from reaching our goals. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you regularly don’t realize things you’re good at. When you’re told negative things about yourself from childhood, it’s hard to show those feelings around. It’s time you stop giving yourself a pity party. Open your eyes. Dig deep inside yourself and find out what it’s that creates you special. You’ll do it!

If we take the recent example of COVID-19, has made everything topsy turvy, and gasping for breath. These include startups, established companies, shops, vendors, employees, colleges, schools, cinema halls, restaurants, and more.

Undoubtedly, people from different walks of life took some time to overcome the shock and get adjusted to lockdowns. But once lockdowns were relaxed and activities are permitted in phases, those with self-confidence started looking at the damage and came out with methods to be in business. Businesses, companies began working online. Teaching has gone online.

Ups and downs are typical in every field, and most unforeseen things may happen, which are not in our control, but we should remain steady and robust. We should never give up our self-esteem and self-confidence. Positive self prompting keeps a person constant and sturdy. If we lose confidence, we are gone. We are solely responsible for making or breaking ourselves.

Take the example of our company, Compumatrix. When many top companies have fallen apart, Compumatrix has overcome all hurdles. The founder of the company had a vision and a dream. He did not stop with just dreaming. He has the courage and conviction to keep his self-esteem, along with Compumatrix, intact. Remaining like a mountain, even when mountains have become stones and flew away with the pandemic.

How to Find Your Expertise

You may be saying, “You don’t know me. I don’t have anything I’m good at.” You can say that until you’re blue in the face, and I’ll never believe it. Why? It’s simple. I’ve been there and done that. I’d say everyone has felt like they’re not good at one point in our lives. It’s time to get over that negative self-talk and move on to find that talent that is buried within you.

There are several ways to find out what your expertise is. Of course, if your opinion is that you can’t do anything, don’t rely on yourself for impartial judgment on that. You are, however, an excellent place to start.

Will you be good at everything you try? Of course not! No one is good at everything. You can find what you are good at, however. Maybe you love the theater. You may have a life-time dream of being an actor/actress. The problem is…you can’t act. Acting is a talent. You either have it, or you don’t. Sometimes you can take every class or training course there is in a subject, and know that you’ll never be more than mediocre. Does that mean you still can’t work doing something you love? NO—you have to look at the alternatives.

Maybe you’re a good organizer and planner. Perhaps that dream you have of being an actor/actress gives you a vision. Instead of wasting money on acting lessons, you can train to be a director. I’m sure you understand what I’m trying to tell you. Please take what you’re good at and work it into something you feel passionate about. Then, you’ll enjoy your work. You’ll be better at it, and feel better about yourself.

To keep yours and your followers self-esteem and self-confidence high, you should have a plan. A strategy, trusted employees, commitment to achieve success, and a strong will and determination to turn hurdles into opportunities.

Do you want to make or break yourself? Do you have the determination to turn problems into opportunities? Do you feel that you will win, come what may? Do you have the positive thinking to see the bright side of the future, then, you have self-esteem and self-confidence, and no one can put you down from your goals.

You only can say about yourself that you are a person with self-esteem and self-confidence.

About the author

Murali Krishna Akilla is a founder member of Compumatrix. He is a writer and blogger. At the age of 72 years, he keeps writing.

Comments

  1. Very well said Krishna. I just came across about this quote “You are what you believe yourself to be.” — Paulo Coelho…..and that may be the case . Boost your confidence, know your worth, find your calling and live a meaningful life of purpose!
    I have learned to love who I am with all my flaws and imperfections. Today, I treat myself kindly. I am aware of my strengths and talents and, in the same way, I can see and appreciate the gifts in others.

  2. Sometimes when you can’t find what you are good at, it is time to look deep within yourself. There is a saying, “take a good look in the mirror.” This isn’t enough if you have been beaten down by life. Too many people work at a job too long. By this, I’m referring to your self-esteem. When you take a hit on your self-esteem every day when you are at work, you are in the wrong place. The saying about the mirror is related to the fact we often only look at ourselves on the surface. We need to dive deep into ourselves to find our self-esteem then build it where it is meant to be.

  3. This is a great post, thank you Krishna. Building self-esteem can take a lifetime, especially for those still obliged to connect with family members whose behaviour led to its destruction. Becoming conscious of and correcting self-talk is crucial. Who hasn’t heard their inner voice declare “Oh, I’m an idiot!” or “I can’t do it”? We can change that to “I can learn from this”, or “I may not be able to do it right now, but I can learn.” Mirror work is also powerful. Finding the courage to stand before a mirror, look into your eyes and say “I know it feels hard right now, but I can do this” or whatever’s relevant, is incredibly effective.

  4. This is a great blog. Thank you so much. It reminded me of something that I’ve learned over the years. Whether you are passionate and love what you do in a personal or professional setting, this is when you will always perform at your very best. If you find that you are stuck doing something that you are unhappy with, it may have resulted from negativity early on in years past. Stick to what you know, love and enjoy. This way you can never go wrong.

  5. good reading and overall the learning you can get from this blog is top notch — coupled with the i can’t do blog and several other postings this ties in so very well — i agree that literally lasting and true success comes because we actually believe in ourselves and that belief causes us to take correct action and map out our plans and stick to those plans even when we suffer temporary setbacks — we just keep pushing forward correctly and yes we can —

  6. Self-esteem is something I suffered with a lot when I was younger. As I got older, I realized people didn’t think about me as much as I thought. When I realized I didn’t have to concern myself with what they thought, I began to grow emotionally. My favorite line these days is, “I’m not responsible what someone thinks about me”. Another thought I often have is, “It is none of my business what you think about me!”

    I try not to go out of my way to antagonize people today. The idea of “think before you talk” is a great one to rely on. Here is another one, “God gave you 2 ears and 1 mouth. You should listen twice as much as you talk!”

  7. A good reminder to always remember to assess our self-esteem and self-confidence – that take a good look into the mirror suggestion! One thing I always try to remember is my self-talk positive or negative – whatever you put out to the universe is what you will receive back so that really helps with my choices….roadblocks, brick walls will always pop up in our lives, and we need to aim to be like Compumatrix – find ways to swerve around them! Such a shining example we have in our lives!

  8. I will be a perennial work in progress, life keep changing and sending challenges when we least expected and ultimately the only one we can rely upon is our own self. Acceptance and being good to ourselves is the least we can do to face each day, finding something creative to do and keeping good friends is a must to feel motivated and these will keep our spirits high. I am working in my spiritual faith, as I need it to be constant and growing when the going gets tough and it gives me inner strength, a big boost to our self esteem is helping others and feel appreciated for it.

  9. My professional work is as a therapist helping clients who are suffering from the emotional bruises of life. I learnt to look beyond the big smile and the apparently confident stride from the client into my therapy room, as I realised it was hiding a cluster of insecurities and someone who never felt they were good enough. Their greatest healing was being reminded to look back at what they overcome, what they had achieved and to start to do things in life that was inspiring to them and for them. Many clients found the moment they felt confident and appreciated was when they hugged their dog or cat. But you can make a difference to someone’s day by giving them a smile as that is a wonderful gift to someone who feels unnoticed.

  10. Excellent article Krishna! I believe that self-esteem and self-confidence are shaped from our childhood. And that’s how I tried to raise my daughters and I believe it was worth it! For me self-esteem and self-confidence help a lot in my day-to-day and also to face the adversities that life presents us, always with a good dose of resilience.

  11. Good read. I too suffer from having low self-esteem image in school. not having many friends and keeping myself away from activities as much as possible. The excuse was I’m shy.
    As I grew into adulthood and started reading and watching motivational videos, I started getting more encouraged to step out into the world, but didn’t succeed as wanted.
    I failed in my marriage and business until I found my passion for Compumatrix.
    From my computer, I could engage with friends from all over the world that later has become my family.

  12. Self- esteem and self-confidence go hand in hand. Life gives us many opportunities to excel in what we can best do.
    The challenges we face in life and how we handle them, determines our formation as human beings. When we succeed we feel stronger. When we dont, then our confidence level goes down.
    Our upbringing and education contribute to a a great extent towards our development as successful individuals and responsible human beings . Helping mankind puts another feather in our cap.

  13. Everyone has something they find that they are good at, not necessarily great but good to above average. You just need to figure out what it is and learn everything you can to improve your ability.

    I was standing at a racetrack a few years ago when the promoter came up and asked me if I wanted to announce the races. I was a racing journalist at the time with my own magazine, used to talking to everyone, so I jumped into the announcers booth. From there went on to national television calling races from Florida to Ohio. It became a nice fit in my life. Even performed a marriage ceremony for two of my racers.

    It was my niche and I enjoyed every bit of it. You also have to enjoy what you are doing, don’t make it just a job. “Someone said I love my job.” Sound familiar, just look around at our group.

    The good part of all this is: when we start our trip to the finish line, things are going to be good for everyone. I believe it, feel it and want it. I’m full of self esteem when it comes to Compumatrix. Can’t wait till the launch.

  14. Joe McKay
    July 19, 2020 at 2:50 am Your comment is awaiting moderation. This is a preview, your comment will be visible after it has been approved.
    Everyone has something they find that they are good at, not necessarily great but good to above average. You just need to figure out what it is and learn everything you can to improve your ability.

    I was standing at a racetrack a few years ago when the promoter came up and asked me if I wanted to announce the races. I was a racing journalist at the time with my own magazine, used to talking to everyone, so I jumped into the announcers booth. From there went on to national television calling races from Florida to Ohio. It became a nice fit in my life. Even performed a marriage ceremony for two of my racers.

    It was my niche and I enjoyed every bit of it. You also have to enjoy what you are doing, don’t make it just a job. “Someone said I love my job.” Sound familiar, just look around at our group.

    The good part of all this is: when we start our trip to the finish line, things are going to be good for everyone. I believe it, feel it and want it. I’m full of self esteem when it comes to Compumatrix. Can’t wait till the launch.

  15. For some reason, the story of the train that thought he could comes to mind. He had been made fun of and ridiculed even though he knew he could do what the other train engines could do. One day there was a problem and this train was the only one who could help. The little engine was scared, but he kept repeating to himself I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. As the engine pulling his heavy load up the hill was near his destination, his attitude changed to I know I can, I know I can,I know I can. As we step out in faith and just start, what we do gets more comfortable, and we become more confident. Examples of this attitude, I refer to our blogging and learning the new technologies for cryptocurrencies and applying that knowledge to our Compumatrix businesses…..I know we can!

  16. i think i can i think i can — great addition to this blog read — so much great stuff and Stephens remembrance of thinking more people were watching n thinking of his day than there were — is so true — I have every confidence now in my ability to succeed in business either offline or online or combo but I also realize that what I accomplish is not any where near as important to others — that in and of itself is self esteem — so much good stuff when you read replies also —

  17. Self-esteem is built from an early age and shaped by our family patterns, school, culture etc. Childhood scars in our soul leave inprints that need to be healed and worked on over the years. Of course, there is a difference between a big ego and a healthy self-esteem. Often the person who boast the most has a low self-esteem and is trying to hide it. Genuine self-esteem is expressed with natural confidence.

  18. How very true Murali Krishna Akilla, however, most people because of the Internet know that your self-esteem is the most important thing. The problem I’ve seen is most people are not willing to accept 100% percent responsibility for their existing situation. Yes, some people were lucky and have had great parents, friends, and other relatives who were supportive and encouraging instead of discouraging and suppressive to them but that’s nothing we have control over. If we are to move forward help ourselves, help others and help the world at large we must take 100% responsibility for where we are and what is happened to us,
    regardless what has happened to us, good, bad or horrible we are the pilot the ship of our life. God, the Supreme being, universal knowledge or whatever gave humans the power of choice. Use it wisely!

  19. Wow, a great reminder! I tell myself before I get out of bed, that I intend to feel good and confident. That is my only job throughout the day. I know from all adversity comes greatness. Life lessons are here to empower us to confidence and self-love which is self-esteem. There is always on oops in our past, so I ask myself ‘Not what if, What now?’.

  20. Self-discovery, knowing who you are first ushers you to your reality, you will the potential in you and what you are capable of, loving yourself gives the opportunity to others to ride on your dream and achieve faster than when alone, many struggles for long without seeing this cobweb, once they break out of this they become the best in all fields they would wish to venture.

  21. Getting beyond triggers and patterns of childhood can be an arduous task that many of us know all so well. Claiming anything is possible, daily and asking ‘what choices do I have today’ and ‘what can I do that honors me’ are two things I do to support my evolution and self esteem. This subject has vital importance to enrich humanity on a large scale!

  22. This reminds me of my high school reunion (those most likely to succeed) I have to admit I was shocked to see some that I would not of thought would succeed in anything let alone still be alive…lol I remember talking to some how they managed to be successful in there field and some actually told me they took self confidence classes and it was part of there training. I think more companies should implement this in there training.

  23. I agree with this article completely. Having high self-esteem is not a given. Most people have to work at it continuously throughout their lives because life itself has a knack for knocking us all down, regularly.

    Those who get knocked down and stay down are the ones who tend to develop low self-esteem. The ones who keep getting up, regardless of how many times they get knocked down, develop self-esteem and are typically destined to be successful at whatever they choose to do.

  24. Very well said, believing in yourself is a huge part of life’s success.You have to believe in yourself to truly believe in other’s. This is huge in building relationships as well. Kinda lines up with trusting your self so as to be able to trust others. Looking in the mirror and loving who you have become.

  25. No one will ever love someone as much as that person should love themselves. People should be their biggest fan! No one else will support and believe in someone as much that person should themselves. Too often people are their biggest criticizers because they are trying to be “humble”, but the world already will knock those people down – they don’t have to do it to themselves. Someone can be humble while having a high self-esteem. Love yourself. Love other people. Love what you do. And go for it!

  26. You shouldn’t need fancy clothes or a nice car to feel better about yourself. All someone needs to have is a deep self worth. Once you have a deep self worth, then you will be able to feel good about yourself and have a high self esteem. In high school I was very scared about what other people thought about me, but looking back at it – everyone was just as scared as me. If we would have had this blog post in high school – I guarantee you we would have been better people (to ourselves and others).

  27. Murali; I found your article to bring back so many memories, such as my little brother, Kon, who was always mistreated and called retarded, but Kon for some odd reason, and I always thought God favored him, but Know never seemed to hear them. I, on the other hand, was gifted the opposite way, and I never understood the great bliss Kon knew; it is said; “Ignorance is bliss.” and Kon went on to prove all of those who mistreated him wrong. He died young but full of life in a tragic accident, but he left so many happy people in his wake, and it was because he was just Kon Von Crees and no one else!

  28. Great blog Krish. Self Esteem is so important especially in the world today. Without it your not living your full potential and losing out on many things. With it you can accomplish almost anything your heart desires. Younger people, especially still in school have this problem and once they over come it they realize how much they can have in life…

  29. to me anymore self esteem is an inside job — it is You and You alone — it is not up to others to build your esteem — and also you do not need to be braggadocio either — I believe set your plan get your daily tasks ready and get them done proficiently and your accomplishment is a great recipe for your quiet Esteem —

  30. So inspiring, “No one can put you down from achieving your goals”. Always, Never listen to the voice of mediocrity. Self Esteem is the key factor to determine who you want to be. Things might not be straight forward, at a given point of time. But, that one doesn’t mean it will be the same always? Despite all the obstacles in life, everyone has his / her own appointed time. The same note here at Compumatrix our appointed time is on way coming.

  31. I have found that so many times in life when I am feeling pretty good about myself for something I have accomplished or maybe helped someone else to accomplish, something or someone comes along and finds a way to knock me down to that no so good place where I was standing when I started working on whatever it is that got me to this sense of accomplishment. It is like the universe is not going to allow you to be any better than the person you just passed on the road while yelling “look at me!” The point is that self esteem is just so important if you are going to accomplish things. If you don’t feel good about yourself it just makes it that much harder to reach a goal or just finish a project. The sad thing is that some people don’t even try. So, they never get to the point of enjoying that place of having self esteem that is such a driving force in your life.

  32. as i was reading other blogs on marketing and inner peace and heart parts –this blog came back and felt needed the read again — You have to know your Heart is the Part that has to overcome all the setbacks and downplays each of us go thru probably everyday — your Self -Esteem – your Faith in You n Your Heart — gotta be there —

  33. as i was reading other blogs on marketing and inner peace and heart parts –this blog came back and felt needed the read again — You have to know your Heart is the Part that has to overcome all the setbacks and downplays each of us go thru probably everyday — your Self Esteem is important —

  34. Hi Krish.Another nice blog.Self esteem is a very real feeling that is directed inwards and holds power in many ways .A feeling as to what other people have for us.A need to be approved by Peers suggests lake of self worth.To achieve our goals we have to have a good healthy self esteem and self worth and thereby succeed in all our efforts in life.It is of utmost importance to have self worth in order to survive and progress in our efforts and avoid any unforeseen failures

  35. Thank you Krish, always enlightening. I agree we can have our pity party or get up and go for it. So true it is so easy to beat yourself up daily or pick yourself apart. We are all beautiful beings of light. Always love yourself. I know its sometimes easier to be critical but remember you are loved.

  36. this is such a great read and inspiring actually — life has truly taught me that every time you get knocked –You get back going back in the right true direction — not always are we knokd down but sometimes we get knokd sideways — so as life plays get pushing right and true and do not let the downsides get you down or stopped — thanks Krish

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