I love learning new ways of thinking about my life, work, and the world around me. To do that, I have had to let go of old belief systems passed on in good faith by my loving parents.
I grew up in a family with little money but an abundance of hugs, clothes came from the second-hand shops, and my mother would sit every evening mending the holes in my trouser knees after playing football and falling over numerous times.
My father would tell me repeatedly as I became closer to leaving school, ‘Learn a trade, and you will never be out of work.’
One evening, as we sat around the dining table, he announced that he had got me a job as a painter and decorator trainee, and I was to start the next week. The company closed after a year, due to a retiring owner, and at 17, I was self-employed and grateful that I could put my hands to most things. It kept me busy, and I was surviving financially but, only just.
However, as time moved on, it became increasingly clear that my father’s trades of plumbing and electrical services were becoming impossible to do. Sadly, his back would go out of alignment every time he twisted to look under a bath for a leaking pipe. We were spending a fortune with a lovely chiropractor who would put my father in a half nelson and crunch his back. Then the next day, his back would pop out again at his next plumbing job, and I got accustomed to hearing my father in the evenings pacing up and down in the sitting room and praying out loud, ‘Please Lord, bring enough money to pay the bills’
He was always looking for ways to bring in extra money, going around door to door with a big suitcase selling home cleaning products, selling alarm systems, MLM schemes, evening cleaning jobs, Calor gas heaters, delivering sets of cooking pans, etc
He would have loved to have had Compumatrix around in those days. He would have had an opportunity to create a wonderful business that would have brought in funds regardless of his health problems. He would have been able to help others to be self-sufficient regardless of age and health.
I have learned that I have had to let go of my fathers ‘affirmations’ that we would always be struggling financially. I learned to stop saying when asked, that “I am surviving financially” because it was stopping me from being financially free.
Learning a trade was great; however, going up and down ladders was no fun as I got older. I have friends who suffer from Arthritis, bad hips, and knees, etc. The trade that had got them through life no longer helps them. But what joy it will be to share and show them how to have their own online business! They can be self-sufficient financially, and yet they can sleep peacefully at night. They will be financially free and also have something to leave to their grandchildren.
Every day when I wake up, I try to remember before getting out of bed, just to say “Thank You” and then I continue through the day saying “Thank You” for all the things I HAVE in my life rather than focusing on the things I DON’T have.
Let me finish by saying “thank you” to you for reading this. Especially to all the Compumatrix staff who have never given up while dealing with every challenge imaginable. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, and thank you for all the encouragement and opportunity.