If you want to be noticed or liked in this world, there is a reason and a cure.
If you want to see in you in social media, life, or even in business, you must act according to what people want to see. A true leader has never asked of anyone that thing which he has not already done.
When I trained troops for future battles, I asked them their best, but I also first demonstrated my ability to do as I am asking before I asked it. In my book, anyone who could do a better job than I did was rewarded. At the same time, the rest got to acknowledge their accomplishment. But, any great leader never downgraded anyone for not making the mark, for you had not yet found what they were good at, and so comes the rules of social engagement. For you must see and seek the good in others, and to do so, you must never apply negative attributes such as these below.
The Bible says this: “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24; “King James Bible”
Well-liked people never play the Blame Game.
People make mistakes, they goof up, and those who do not blame accept that as a fact of life then move on. Do you move on or hold on to animosity?
To think it through further, one could ask, was it my fault, did I not do my job correctly, or was it something else? The questions should be asked.
The ultimate part of the blame game is owning up to your own mistakes and take or deal with responsibility. By taking responsibility, one garners respect and admiration from those around them.
Also, by owning up to mistakes, one learns, grows, is smarter, and a much happier person in the long run.
Popular people don’t try to control.
So you are the person who is in control, and you find the thought sometimes all-consuming and problematic at times. But, never let all that power go to your head.
The only real control you have is over yourself. So, if you are out there trying to control others, you are just saying your dreams, goals, and opinions are more important than theirs.
Remember, control is short term because it requires authority, fear, respect, or some form of pressure to make it long term, and none of these concepts make you feel good about yourself.
The best approach is to find people with similar likes, goals, and just going in the same direction you are and create a relationship to produce a better business or outcome.
Popular people never criticize others.
So what if you have more experience and more education. And so what if you have been around the block a few times and surpassed everyone else. This fact does not make your smarter, better, or the only one with unique insights. It just makes you; you and nothing more.
Just like everyone else, who may have many of the same things you do, but never asked or were told. So don’t criticize anyone else, know they are different. Instead of seeing their shortcomings, try to seek their strong points, and utilize their strengths.
Well, liked people are not preachy.
Are you one who thinks you know everything about your job, or some subject, or social situation? The common thing is if you feel you are more accomplished than most folks, you tend to express to people everything you think you know, and it usually isn’t much.
The tendency here is people will be there and appear to hear from you, but they are not listening.
Popular people don’t whine.
People want to be uplifted and positive. It is how we are wired; we want to be happy. If you whine about your problems, then you not only bring others down to your level, you become more distant and unhappy by hearing your problems over and over again. People also do not want to hear repetitious sermons about how you have it so rough. Everyone has their issues to deal with not just you.
If you have a problem, don’t spend time complaining. Think of a way to improve your situation, and a good leader also searches for advice, which is not complaining. Why waste time complaining when it never accomplishes the goal of improving the situation.
Popular people never interrupt others.
The old saying; Interrupting is just plain rude! When you interrupt, you are saying you and your opinions are so much more important. It is taking center stage, and saying you are more important than anyone else here.
The biggest thing you are saying is I am not listening to you, which hurts feelings.
Want people to like to be around you? Then listen to what they say, and appear interested. Focus and make sure to ask questions about what they said.
Popular People Don’t live in the past.
There is always a lot of information in a person’s past. You learn from past mistakes, and a good leader learns from the mistakes of others and makes a note.
To hold on to the bad mistakes, the goofs, the hurt feelings, and the ideas or concepts we draw from past mistakes is a severe problem for any person trying to do a better job and influence others.
You must turn the past loose. It is of little to no importance if it will make you hold on to grudges and animosity.
All of your past is training for what is coming ahead in your life; God sort of sets things up that way. Never let your past define who you are, for it was a lesson to learn by and nothing more. In so doing, you are always growing. If someone else makes a mistake, stay focused, and see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.
Popular people never allow fear to stop them.
We all have concerns, so we often tend to worry about what might happen and handle it properly. We also tend to worry about how others will see us in light of what might or might not happen. We have no clue, but our mind is running wild with “What if’s.”
The sad part of being afraid is we spend so much time worrying that time passes, and so do most of our dreams. I can’t imagine, “What if? Henry had worried and not started Compumatrix. Where would our dreams be right now? But Henry didn’t, and neither should we hold back. We need to get out there as our BOD tells us and get busy for a long future with Compumatrix and leave a legacy for our children and grandchildren.
Suppose you desire something such as a profitable business and strong online influence in social media. In that case, you must try to incorporate many of these ideas and concepts into your life. It will make you a very liked and well-respected person in your community and around town.
Why wait if it is what you want to do next in life? Take that chance and try it no matter what the outcome. Sam Walton failed a few times before Wal-Mart became a success. Still, Sam’s theory was never to quit trying. Now, Wal-Mart is the largest single retailer in the entire world.
So try, what do you have to fear? Failure is just a learning experience and nothing more.
Think about this; today is almost gone, and tomorrow is not promised, so do something, do anything except sit there worrying.
Compumatrix asks for us to participate, and so many don’t. Do you not know I worry each time I start to write? My first worry is what am I going to write about. So I use vital words we find so often associated with our company. I read articles, or I check out some keywords, and when something hits my ‘Like Button,’ I make some notes and sometimes have to do some serious thought and prayer on the subject. Follow the rules, and take your time; sometimes a good paper is a shorter paper, and it may take a month or more who knows, it has taken that long for me at times.
Most of all, if I believe it will help someone else as it did me, then I must find my own words to share it. I make that step…
A valid piece of information about me: I am basically an introvert (not outgoing) so making friends is very hard work, and for most people, it is the same. So be brave and take a chance! What do you have to lose?