OR another TITLE could be “Are you relaxed and confident in your manner of presenting yourself to others and interacting with them…
This latest world crisis has made a demand on us to stay home, work from home, stay away from creating a crowd or being part of a crowd. Public meeting places (restaurants theaters Sports parks have been closed). It has made us change much of our environment to different modes and customs. The result is that we have had to live around ourselves much more than ever before. Now the question has become; do I like myself. Am I at peace with myself and who I really am as I find out more and more about myself.
This then brings up this type of topic which is an old expression but that today might have a little more significance. “Are you comfortable in your own skin”. Yes, this is an old saying, which on the surface had the sense of being a practiced feeling of inner confidence in my own life. However, in today’s atmosphere, the sense of what it means goes a little more deeply than just a surface feeling. The challenge has been put out there by or whole society. Today it is not just a simple complacency of, yeah I’m okay, but has now elevated itself into the confidence and belief in myself that I can change and I can handle change. My whole world has changed in all aspects of socializing, A lot of social interaction places have closed so the way people interact has changed even the simple thing of going to the store has all seen a dramatic need for adjustments. So now the question becomes more of how is your “mind” behaving, are you able to handle it and be able to change with no real self threat to your mind, (your “psyche”, the makeup of your conscious personality) or your inner spirit?
Many are the wishers that look around at others and say I wish I……
If you take a little time and look around your little world or even try to get to know these peoples you will find…lots of disappoints, you will find lots of broken dreams…you will find disillusionment and disappointment. You will find some feel others have failed them not realizing that in some cases they failed themselves. Where might you be? They may feel that some they cared about failed them or did not reach one’s expectations. They then isolate themselves as it were surrounded by those that do not care.
This is what I call the “Eve syndrome”…..it is not my fault this is happening, it wasn’t me, it was that serpent, that snake going about in the garden. He is still going around the garden for many.
And thus making everything terrible for “me”. The corollary to this is the sentiment it is failing or somethings wrong…because “they are not listening to me. They do not care about me. I do not matter, I am unimportant.”
I think you get the picture so now let’s proceed into the fundamentals of this topic.
First, let’s read some definitions of this saying “comfortable in one’s own skin” it will help.
(idiomatic) Relaxed and confident in one’s manner of presenting oneself and interacting with others;
conveying the impression that one has a clear, satisfying understanding of one’s abilities and situation. This is, the YES I can handle these changes with finesse and adequacy. I have the ability to make this all work for the good of myself and others
So why is it important to be comfortable in your own skin? The objective is this.
When you feel better about yourself, you tend to look better and then you will act accordingly in your day-to-day mannerisms. When you feel confident in who you are, it will show through your actions, your personal demeanor, and your interactions with others.
It is the concept of staying where you are and unearthing the diamonds right under you with a little digging, patience and effort to work. (The compumatrix Family can help here)
How To Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin
Take good care of yourself. …
uplift and feed well your mind & spirit. …
Discover yourself completely. …
Stop caring about what other people think. …
Understand what your obligations are and are not as to doing anything. …
Befriend your inner monsters. …
Make peace with your past. …
Frequently, a person projects that someone else doesn’t think or feel like me.
This projection then becomes a habit of dependency in interacting with one or even others.
This begins the feeling of self-consciousness around others. So now you must make yourself
feel less self-conscious around others by being more comfortable with yourself.
So, what are the things one can do to feel more at ease with one’s self?
One person said it this way “honor your body”.
This means to come to terms with yourself that your body is important and you should be very
partial to take care of it. How would you do this? Well. Some regular schedule of exercise, even
if it just brisk walks. Take care of health needs, staying clean in all venues, drinking lots of water, eating correctly and healthily.
Make a list of these things and write out a schedule so that you may prioritize them.
Another thing is to maintain a healthy, positive mind. Do creative things, for some this could mean
writing, art, or cooking. It can be reading, getting new ideas, and learning new things. Compumatrix provides such a platform. BLOGGING and COMMENTS. For others, it may be designing and building something from scratch.
All these will contribute to a healthy mind with positive thinking eliminating negative
thinking. When you are creative that is the time the real you surfaces.
Many of these things will unveil new passions within you, thus making life a little more pleasant and giving you the important steps to appreciating yourself.
Get inner peace, acquire a place of peace always in the present moment. Have quiet times to meditate on all the good around you. Learn how to laugh a LOT. Laughter is like “a medicine”.
This will help immensely in maintaining Faith and Hope. This will help you in just Being.
So, Finding your self authenticity authenticates you. Be true to yourself, you will automatically feel attractive and unique. This will keep you at peace.
Remind yourself that you are the keeper of the gate, not depending on others for approval. The reality is that you alone are the only person who can ever truthfully believe and tell you “you have value”. You are the only person who can do this. This is a road that only you can choose to travel and that to arrive at only your selection of destination. You are the only person who can do this because it only comes from deep within you.
And you have a Compumatrix family that can confirm this and encourage this to happen for you. A Compumatrix family, of and for support; a family that can Engage with you, Enrich you, that is, make life rewarding for you and Enhance your life.