We have far more choice than we realise in deciding how we are feeling each day.
Just by noticing your thoughts and knowing that we can change them.
A great quote that has always stayed with me is, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
In recent months it has challenged us more than normal as we have woken up each day aware of the limitations imposed on us and feeling the anxieties from around the world being shared with us each time we listen to the news.
Many people feel helpless, vulnerable, and anxious, with old fears bubbling up from the past. They are told to stay in, don’t socialise, and don’t hug your family and friends.
Young and old are having sleepless nights, some drink more to push away their fears, and some eat more to feed the gnawing anxieties. They are doing whatever they can to cope. However, other healthier ways can help you feel better.
Here are my tips for helping yourself to feel lighter and more peaceful.
- Before getting out of bed in the morning, lie still and say ‘thank you’ for at least three things for which you are grateful. Thankful for such as a roof over your head, a warm, dry home, another day to practise kindness to others and yourself, Etc.
- Suppose you are feeling disassociated and down with no energy, etc. If possible, step outside and if there is grass, take your shoes off and walk on the grass..connect to the earth. Go to the nearest tree you are attracted to, stand with your back to it, and close your eyes. Imagine that you have roots just like the tree that grows down from your feet and goes deep into the ground. Remind yourself of how at each Fall, that tree just ‘let’s go’ of the old leaves as it prepares for new growth. Remind yourself that it is ok to let go or ‘your’ old fears and ancient belief systems. Make room for new, fresh ideas and thoughts that lift your spirits.
- Bring some fresh, colourful flowers into each room you spend time in. Plants are excellent at helping to maintain clean air. And their beautiful colours will lift you.
- Sit quietly in one room you spend a lot of time in, let your eyes dwell on each object or picture in that room, and notice whether anything makes you feel sad or tense. If so, remove it out of that room and instead only surround yourself with things that make you smile or lift your spirits.
- What sounds lift you? Certain music/songs or the sound of the ocean waves? Put on some musical hits from the past that always make you tap your foot or sing along to. Play a CD with the sound of the ocean waves on it and listen to it for 15 minutes. Notice how much lighter you feel afterwards.
- Talk for less time to the gloomy friend who uses you as a dumping ground to unload all their problems on to you. Notice how it always leaves feeling tired after their visit or phone call.
- Do something creative or inspirational. This could be: playing an instrument, doing a jigsaw, walking your dog, being in the garden, learning a new hobby, do some drawing or painting. Do whatever makes your heart sing with joy.
- Create a small book of photos full of happy, joyful memories, of holidays, an evening out with friends, playing with a pet, or smiling grandchildren. Only have photos that make you smile when you look at them or even put those pictures on to your phone. It then becomes your book of ‘happy moments’.
- Think about what you watch on TV? How do you feel afterwards? Anxious, angry, or relaxed? So instead watch something that makes you smile, or even better, turn off the TV.
- Relax in a bath with Epsom salts or Sea salt. It helps to repel negativity and is very relaxing for your body and mind.
Notice how the picture above makes you feel?
Then how does this angry man make you feel?
So one powerful insight is that you can’t ‘feel’ two ‘opposite’ emotions at the same time. You can’t be happy and sad at the same time, and you can’t be angry and peaceful at the same time.
So use positive resources unique to you, focus on the things that make you feel happy based on your own personal experiences, and don’t fill your day looking at and listening to people that fuel your fear and anxieties.
Compmatrix wouldn’t have survived until today unless we had leaders who knew how to pick themselves up from the knocks and disappointments.
We too, as part of the Compumatrix family, can use some of these tips to keep our eyes focused on what gives us hope and positivity as our business opens up to become fully functional.
I hope you find something useful in these tips and if you have some wonderful suggestions that you would like to add, please comment.