A shared memory this week on FaceBook touched my heart so much that it just had to be shared here. The message was titled Make the Chili.
The opening portrays two ladies running and mindlessly chatting. One of the ladies was a recent widow while the other was trying to decide if she would make chili for dinner as requested by her husband. The thought of having to shop for the necessary ingredients was not winning votes toward the requested meal.
The widowed lady listened to the excuses for not fulfilling that wish. After a few minutes of silence, she softly whispered, “Make the Chili.”
That message was not referring to the chili as a meal but was a gentle reminder of what is important. The realization was that of going out of your way to do something for someone you love before it is too late.
My mother lived with us for the last two years of her life. She would come into my office to sit, just to be near me while I worked. I wish I had pulled my head away from the computer more often or gotten up and watch that soap opera she loved. That time missed can never be relived. We all think we have “time” but are clueless about how much time we actually have with our loved ones. The biggest regret is that I didn’t stop to “Make the Chili” often enough.
To connect this story to our Compumatrix business was an easy task.
We have had many years together working as a team. Our team doesn’t just consist of the members here at Compumatrix but extends to our families and friends. Making chili is a daily adventure we must share.
How many times have you been laughed at or ridiculed because of your business choice?
Those of us who do have your loved one’s support should never take this priceless gift for granted. If for whatever reason, there are only negative vibes from family and friends, then we may need to ask ourselves a few questions.
1. Do I take time to educate my loved one on what Compumatrix is all about? If we don’t educate, then how can we get them to understand?
2. Am I giving off negative vibes? Needless to say, our emotions are felt by everyone around us. Negativity breeds negativity.
3. Do I believe in what I am doing? If the belief level is not there, then how can you get anyone else to believe?
4. Have I taken the time to learn what this type of business entails to be successful? If we don’t understand our role or functionality, how can we perform our duties?
5. Do I take the time to do in-depth research? Watching YouTube videos, searching Google, attending webinars, taking classes, and asking countless questions are just a few steps that can help bring the business into focus.
6. Do I follow directions when the company presents information? It is a straightforward guarantee to fall behind quickly when not keeping up since this type of business changes frequently.
7. Does my attitude need adjusting? Hum, now this is big. One of the most important things about you is your attitude. Being confident, motivated, polite, friendly, helpful, and happy are characteristics needed for a fantastic attitude. An exercise that may help with a bad attitude is to write down the exact words that you want people to say to describe your personality.
Be mindful of words and actions. In other words, there is no need to be a big complainer. It’s very unappealing to be around people who are always complaining about their life or even changes within a business necessary to move forward. Sometimes it takes something as simple as giving people the benefit of the doubt. Find positive things to focus on and discuss it with those around you. Staying professional and positive is a virtue.
Being interested in people you meet every day can be very motivational. The first “hello” set the greeting, but how that hello is delivered will propel the conversation and attitude. When asked how you are doing, try saying fantastic instead of stressed out!
What about a simple smile? Smiling is one of the most potent attitude adjusters. Observe how this projects happiness to others and your happiness. Why not make your smile the default expression on your face.
8. Am I taking the time to take care of myself? Whoa, that is one question that hits home. Taking care of ourselves is usually the last thing on our to-do list; at least it is for me. Worrying about everyone else and neglecting ourselves is detrimental to our health. Take a break, get some sleep, exercise, watch a movie, read a book, or sit quietly and reflect on all that is good around you.
9. Last, but not the lease, am I taking the time to take care of my family’s needs? The simplest answer to this one is, Make that Chili!